My blog posting lately has been woefully sparse lately. I’m very aware of this, and hope that things slow down. In all honesty, 2016 has been a whirlwind!! Mike has been traveling back and forth to California for work since his company has a location there as well as in Seattle, and his team works with them quite a bit. So in the past three weeks, Mike has spent at least part of each week in California. And he was there for two weeks in December and one week in January. This has meant that airport runs, doing laundry, and packing clothes to accommodate these frequent trips are no longer a novelty but a part of life. It’s looking like this will slow down soon, but in the meantime everything has been hectic since I’ve been taking care of things that Mike would normally take care of. Case in point: On Monday I worked from home to be there when a home inspector came to look at our house (we’re coming up on our one-year warranty! How have we already been here a year??). On Friday I was at work in a meeting with a co-worker and had to take a quick break before the meeting to call the mechanic about taking a look at the TPMS in our tire. After my call, my co-worker shook her head and said, “You have been busy lately!” On top of that, my job has been super busy lately. I’ve been at Groupon just about a year, and I’ve found from past experience that after I’ve been at a job for about a year I understand it well and end up getting pulled into a variety of projects. I love it because my days fly by, but holy cow! It has been keeping me busy lately!!
So, that’s my big long disclaimer. Basically I know I haven’t been posting… I hope things get better after mid-March when the biggest project I’m working on launches.
Here are some practical, random thoughts on having a husband who seems to be gone on business half of the time.
- I have to turn the heat up higher at night. Apparently Mike runs hot enough that he heats up the bedroom, and without him I need extra heat of the electric variety.
- The dishwasher doesn’t get full before I run out bowls. I’m a bowl person and eat almost anything I can out of bowls, and Mike is more of a plate person. What that means is that when Mike isn’t here to fill up half of the dishwasher with plates, I run out of bowls before the dishwasher is full enough to run. #firstworldproblems
- Trying to cook is difficult, since Mike often leaves town and doesn’t get back until the food I’ve cooked has gone bad. I really need to learn the art of freezing food. For some reason it intimidates me and I never do it. And if I do, I never thaw it because I really don’t know how, so I end up throwing it out after six months anyway, thus defeating all the point to having frozen it in the first place.
- Piper expects me to play with her since Mike isn’t around as much, but then when I try to play with her she just stares at me with her eyes half closed as if to say ‘Really? Really?? That’s all you got? That’s pathetic. Where’s Mike?’ And then ten minutes later I see her throwing her crumpled receipt up the stairs and then running after it by herself. So apparently Mike is the best person to play with. Piper herself is second best. And I am third best. Or last best. Or just the worst. I haven’t decided how I’m spinning this situation to myself yet.
In other news, despite Mike’s frequent trips, I have been doing a lot of cooking. This weekend I made a tomato veggie soup that was yummy! I increased the amounts of all of the spices, which I think helped a lot. Otherwise it may have been a little bland for me. But I’m also the person who puts salsa and sriracha on everything, so I may not be representative of the general population. I also made some balsamic brussels sprouts that turned out really well. Mike ate the first bite and then turned to me solemnly and told me that was the best thing to ever come off of our stove. Score! Sunday night I made red peppers stuffed with chicken and veggies.
Although I have been doing pretty well in the cooking department, I had an instance of very bad wife-dom a week ago (Is wife-dom a word? No? I guess I just made it up then.) Mike had gotten back from one of his trips late, and his windbreaker didn’t smell great. I threw it in the washer, and while I was at it I threw his second, slightly heavier coat in the wash too. I made a mental note to myself that I had to move those to the dryer before I went to bed or Mike wasn’t going to have a coat to wear to work the next morning. Well, we all know what happens with mental notes. (Or maybe just what happens to me with mental notes? Lately I feel as though I always have twenty things in my head that I’m remembering to do and a few always fall off my radar. Or maybe I’m just living in denial and it’s actually a ‘senior moment’? 😉 ) Anyway, of course, I went to bed forgetting all about the coats and didn’t remember them until the next morning when Mike was getting ready for work. I threw them in the dryer then, but it was really too late.
“So I have no coat?” Mike asked, when I confessed what I had done.
“Well…” I hedged. “Not no coat. Just not those two coats.”
“But those are the only two coats I ever wear,” Mike said. Good point, but not one I was going to cede without a fight.
“Right… but you still have that down coat,” I reminded him.
“Yeah, but it’s super hot. I’ll get overheated in one second.”
I was already frantically looking through our closet and emerged triumphantly with his running jacket. “Here! This is even black. And it’s not too cold out today. This will work.”
Mike shrugged, put it on, and left for work.
And of course, it started to rain that day and we got a windstorm. As I walked to lunch with a coworker I told him all about how I had washed all of my husband’s coats and left him with nothing to wear except a running jacket. And, as I recounted it to my coworker, I remembered that the running jacket didn’t even have a hood. And Mike never carries an umbrella because he typically wears one of his two coats with hoods that were at that moment in the dryer. I felt guilty for wearing my hood. I felt like I should put it down. Since I had taken away both of Mike’s hoods, what right did I have to be enjoying my hood?
I was concerned about Mike on and off all day as I looked out the window at the rain and wind. I even contemplated crazy stuff like going home over lunch to get his now-dry coat and then dropping it off with him at work. But frankly work was way too busy for me to have much more than a bathroom break all day so an extended lunch to go home and back wasn’t really in the cards. Then I thought that after work I could at least drop off my umbrella with him at work so he would have something while he waited for the bus, but he ended up leaving too early for me to do that. I had only been home a few minutes when he arrived. I hurried him in out of the rain and offered him a hoodie. He looked at me like I was crazy.
“It’s a hoodie! So you can warm up after being wet and frozen with no coat all day.”
“You only wore your running jacket today, and there was a windstorm and it rained!”
Mike looked at me as though only barely understanding me. “Oh, I actually got too warm in this coat. It wasn’t very cold out.”
So apparently I spent significantly more time thinking about that than he did. 🙂
I have been listening to so much music lately… I’m not sure, but I’ve definitely been in a music mood lately. I have been loving Chris Cornell’s new album
Incidentally, this article about why you should date an engineer is literally the funniest article I have seen in all of 2016 so far. I could not stop laughing when I read it. Could. Not. Stop. So accurate. Numbers 9 and 15 have literally happened to us exactly as they are written. Multiple times. The only way in which I seem to be more of the “engineer” in the relationship are numbers 11 and 19 (I laugh at myself for re-arranging the dishes in the dishwasher even as I continue to do it. Time. After. Time. After. Time.)
Incidentally my running has been getting fast. I ran 2 two-mile intervals at a 7:30min/mile pace last week. That is fast for me! How did this happen? A good friend at work is taking a three day hiking/climbing trip at Mt. Rainier in July with a mountain climbing group. His ambition is starting to remind me that I keep planning to do a sub 4 hour marathon. Maybe 2016 is the year? All of that training sounds like a pain… but…. the thought of a shot at that four hour marathon sounds pretty good. We’ll see. 🙂
Speaking of mountain climbing, has anyone seen the documentary Meru?? Oh my gosh… SO good!! Watch the trailer at the link I gave so you can see if it’s your kind of movie, but I loved it! Such an amazing story!